Logic Trumps Emotion

I say this a lot, and there's a reason: it's true. 

I have a friend who always happily points out when I'm "letting my vagina do the talking."  At those moments, I quickly reevaluate my point of view (he's usually right), and talk the logic back into the situation.  Women, in general, have a hard time looking at a situation through logic instead of emotion.

Example:
You're casually seeing someone you really have feelings for who is casually seeing other women as well.

Emotional response:
You're hurt and upset because you [desperately] want to be the only woman in his life.

Logical response:
You have no right to be upset because you're not the only woman in his life, nor are you his girlfriend.

The sooner you are able to process your thoughts logically, the sooner you'll realize how much time you spend being sad for no reason.  Let's be honest, ladies.  We're emotional creatures.  It's natural to be upset in a situation like my example.  But that doesn't mean you have to be emotional all the freaking time. 

Guys expect you to be crazy for one week out of the month.  And during that week, it's still not cool, but it's slightly more accepted.  During the rest of the month, you need to put your big girl panties on and suck it up.  Or find a guy who will tolerate your whining and bitching because they don't spend enough time with you.  I have friends right now who are literally texting and calling their "boyfriends" multiple, MULTIPLE times a day and getting no response.  There's a reason they don't respond!  They don't want to talk to you! 

So logically, you need to explain to yourself that this is not the end of the world and you will get over it.  You will find someone else who responds when you call and text.  You will go to sleep and get up the next day just the same as you did today.  Your natural, emotional response will be to continue calling and texting until he responds.  He won't.  So just stop.  Fight the urge.

Logic will always trump emotion.  It's ok to be emotional sometimes.  SOMETIMES.  But try to see the world through logic instead.  You'll be so much happier with your day-to-day life and overall situation.  Trust me.  I'm a doctor. (jk)

Trash the Dress

Two months from today I'm scheduled to do a "Trash the Dress" photo shoot with Melissa Babasin of Melissa Babasin Photography (www.melissababasinphotography.com).  I'm SO excited for this shoot for several reasons.

1. Melissa did my wedding pictures, so it's only appropriate that she do my divorce pictures too.
2. My wedding dress will fit me a lot better now that I've lost 25 lbs, and another 10 before then (before picture to the left).
3. Melissa's work is phenomenal.
4. I'm celebrating being done with a dead-end marriage.
5. It's not only going to be a trash-the-dress shoot, but also kind of a glamor shoot.
6. I'm going to use a few of the photos she takes as head shots for future auditions.

 By the time this photo shoot rolls around, I want to have lost the last 10 lbs and really toned up.  I've been working really hard on this, and I'm slowly but surely seeing a difference in my body.  It's amazing to see hard work pay off!

I'm very grateful to close friends and family who have helped me through the last 5-10 months (Steven, Donna, Monique, Lexie, Betty, Brandon, Trevor, and Megan, just to name a few).  It's been a long time since I've felt like myself, but I finally do.  And it's been long overdue.  I've been going out, reconnecting with old friends, making new ones, and loving every single minute of life that I'm LIVING.  No more watching from the stands.  It's time for me.

#motivation

Desperation is NOT Attractive

 I have a couple male friends that I've been observing on FB the last couple months, and it's hilarious to me how many girls throw themselves at them.  In a desperate way.  They "like" every single post and photo, they comment on everything, and they apparently get attitude when they see other girls doing the same.  

Desperation is not attractive, ladies.  If he's interested, he'll talk to you.  Have enough confidence to know what you're worth, and let him come to you on his own.  If he doesn't, find someone who will.  Don't chase after him, it's not appealing.  And it makes you look like an idiot.  

We're all a little guilty of this at times, myself included.  You find a guy you like, you connect with him, and then you see that he connects with 3 other girls too.  So you start thinking,
"What if he likes them more than me?"
SO WHAT??  There will be other guys who like you more than someone else.  Don't compete for any man's attention.  You are who you are, the end.  Don't change or try to be like anyone else just to impress him.  Because once you get comfortable and things start to get into a routine, he will notice that you're different.  

All I'm saying is don't be desperate.  It's not cute.  Just relax, be yourself, have a great time in life, and if he's attracted to you, he'll tell you.  Men aren't very subtle...

20 Things Women Want Men to Know

Men, pay attention:

1. When we compare ourselves to a fat cow, say nothing.

2. If you say you'll do something, do it.

3. We often think with our vaginas, much like you often think with your penis.

4. We love surprises because it shows that you cared enough to put some thought behind it.

5. We appreciate that you're protective, but don't act like our father.

6. Oral sex is your get-out-of-jail-free card.  New shoes will also work.

7. It's cheating as soon as you do something you wouldn't want her to see, read, hear...

8.  "Fine" is never an appropriate response when we ask "How do I look?"

9. Sometimes we like to be the big spoon.  Let us hold you now and then.

 10. When you say you'll contact us, we expect you to.

11. We can handle the truth, so don't lie to us under the guise that you're "protecting" us.

12. You did something bad.  I seem ok with it.  I'm not.  Please see #6 above.

13. We always notice when you check out other girls. You're not that sly.

14. Wearing jeans with holes big enough to put your fist through are not appropriate for a family gathering.

15. Discussions about the ex-bf/ex-gf should be avoided at all times.

16. We love when you spend time with your mother, but not every waking second.

17. We appreciate good hygiene.  

18. We are well aware when we're being bitchy, but it's in your best interest to not point it out.

19. We will use any excuse we can to touch you in public.

20.  Affection should not have an ulterior motive.  Sometimes it should stop at a simple kiss and a hug.

All simple enough, right? 

How to be a 20-Something

This is an insightful article I found at www.stumbleupon.com.  It's something every 20-something should stop to read.

How to be a 20-Something

Baby Daddy

I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine about the celebrities with whom we would procreate.  Because of this conversation, I decided to make an official list.  So here goes:

1. Elliot Stabler from SVU

2. Rufio from Hook

3. Channing Tatum

4. Josh Duhamel

5. Omar Epps

6. Artie from Glee

7. Edward Cullen

8. Bradley Cooper

9. Ryan Gosling

10. Chris Pine

11. Adrian Grenier

12. Zack Morris

13. Ed Westwick

14. Chace Crawford

15. Edward Norton

16. Paul Walker

17. Gerard Butler

18. Kellan Lutz

19. Shemar Moore

20. Ryan Reynolds