I say this a lot, and there's a reason: it's true.
I have a friend who always happily points out when I'm "letting my vagina do the talking." At those moments, I quickly reevaluate my point of view (he's usually right), and talk the logic back into the situation. Women, in general, have a hard time looking at a situation through logic instead of emotion.
Example:
You're casually seeing someone you really have feelings for who is casually seeing other women as well.
Emotional response:
You're hurt and upset because you [desperately] want to be the only woman in his life.
Logical response:
You have no right to be upset because you're not the only woman in his life, nor are you his girlfriend.
The sooner you are able to process your thoughts logically, the sooner you'll realize how much time you spend being sad for no reason. Let's be honest, ladies. We're emotional creatures. It's natural to be upset in a situation like my example. But that doesn't mean you have to be emotional all the freaking time.
Guys expect you to be crazy for one week out of the month. And during that week, it's still not cool, but it's slightly more accepted. During the rest of the month, you need to put your big girl panties on and suck it up. Or find a guy who will tolerate your whining and bitching because they don't spend enough time with you. I have friends right now who are literally texting and calling their "boyfriends" multiple, MULTIPLE times a day and getting no response. There's a reason they don't respond! They don't want to talk to you!
So logically, you need to explain to yourself that this is not the end of the world and you will get over it. You will find someone else who responds when you call and text. You will go to sleep and get up the next day just the same as you did today. Your natural, emotional response will be to continue calling and texting until he responds. He won't. So just stop. Fight the urge.
Logic will always trump emotion. It's ok to be emotional sometimes. SOMETIMES. But try to see the world through logic instead. You'll be so much happier with your day-to-day life and overall situation. Trust me. I'm a doctor. (jk)
I have a friend who always happily points out when I'm "letting my vagina do the talking." At those moments, I quickly reevaluate my point of view (he's usually right), and talk the logic back into the situation. Women, in general, have a hard time looking at a situation through logic instead of emotion.
Example:
You're casually seeing someone you really have feelings for who is casually seeing other women as well.
Emotional response:
You're hurt and upset because you [desperately] want to be the only woman in his life.
Logical response:
You have no right to be upset because you're not the only woman in his life, nor are you his girlfriend.
The sooner you are able to process your thoughts logically, the sooner you'll realize how much time you spend being sad for no reason. Let's be honest, ladies. We're emotional creatures. It's natural to be upset in a situation like my example. But that doesn't mean you have to be emotional all the freaking time.
Guys expect you to be crazy for one week out of the month. And during that week, it's still not cool, but it's slightly more accepted. During the rest of the month, you need to put your big girl panties on and suck it up. Or find a guy who will tolerate your whining and bitching because they don't spend enough time with you. I have friends right now who are literally texting and calling their "boyfriends" multiple, MULTIPLE times a day and getting no response. There's a reason they don't respond! They don't want to talk to you!
So logically, you need to explain to yourself that this is not the end of the world and you will get over it. You will find someone else who responds when you call and text. You will go to sleep and get up the next day just the same as you did today. Your natural, emotional response will be to continue calling and texting until he responds. He won't. So just stop. Fight the urge.
Logic will always trump emotion. It's ok to be emotional sometimes. SOMETIMES. But try to see the world through logic instead. You'll be so much happier with your day-to-day life and overall situation. Trust me. I'm a doctor. (jk)
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